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Authenticity vs. Technique

July 26, 2012

 Do you know Harry Max? If you don’t, I recommend you find an excuse to meet him – fascinating guy who I now get to call my friend (i.e., I’m pretty sure he would come get me out of jail at 3 a.m., which as I’ve said in an earlier post is my definition of a friend ( One day I was visiting with Harry and he mentioned the idea that, when it comes to talking with people, it’s always preferable to approach them with authenticity vs. technique.


I get to interact with people a lot and there are occasions just about every day where I am not quite sure what to say. I prepare ahead of time, that’s my DNA. That said, when it comes to communicating with someone I care about, I often don’t quite know what to say.


Enter authenticity vs technique. When I quit worrying about doing it right and instead try my honest best to show up, say what I need to say in as straightforward and caring a way as possible, all will be ok.  I still prepare, I still worry, and then I let go – I trust that if I am as authentically Sara as I can be, and say what needs saying, all will be ok.


This works with my husband (whom I adore), with my business partners, with employees, with friends. It just works. I ask myself the question, “what needs saying here?” and let it flow from there.


Let’s consider the words for a minute.


Authentic means of undisputed origin or authorship.


Wow, what a definition. Being authentic, by that definition, is a monumental challenge in our mass consumer mindset that tells us to be homogeneous, be just like someone else. Wear, think, do just like someone else. Which is, by definition, un-authentic.


Technique means technical skill and the ability to apply procedures or methods so as to effect a desired result.


Wow, what a definition. Sounds a bit inhuman to me.


I know which I would rather be on the receiving end of.


Try letting your words be of undisputed YOUR-NAME-HERE origin.


Be you. Say that.


Give it a shot and let me know how it goes.

One Comment leave one →
  1. July 26, 2012 4:23 pm

    Well, Sara, that’s so you challenging me to be me. Full-spectrum me. I’ll report along the journey.

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